I think you have heard this before. If you want to see things change, if you are not happy with a relationship, your situation in life, or something else, you need to start with yourself. And I think that you also know, it is easier said than done. But you can start by doing some small things and see what happens. For instance, decide that you will always meet another person with a positive attitude. Even if the other person is being angry, he/she is offensive, feeling negative, you decide NOT to go into that same feeling. Do NOT get angry and yell back, do NOT go into the same negative feelings. Instead – listen, and meet the other person with a positive (or neutral) attitude. Even if he/she says something you do not agree on, confirm what they say, that you hear and understand, instead of starting an argument or fight trying to convince them that they are wrong. Even if the thing they say is about you. This is hard, but it will give you a totally different situation than if you contribute to the negativity. I have tried this, and the result most of the times is that we go from that situation with a positive feeling, instead of a feeling of fighting. Giving energy instead of taking energy. And you will feel really good if/when you succeed. Also, the other person might get out of their starting mood, thanks to you! And maybe, you are contributing to grow a positive feeling instead. Be the light in their life. Why not try it? Be the change that you want to see in the world. Take care. Namaste.