Today I start a new theme – the Sunday Sharing. Once a week you will find postings from other sites and bloggers that I find interesting and want to share with you. My Sunday Sharing.
The first post I want to share with you is a post about the importance of yoga in our daily life. Getting that everyday routine will help you start the day in the best way and set you up for handling anything that comes in your way during the day. You can read more about this in the article below.
Yoga is the most favourable method to connect to the nature by balancing the mind-body connection. It is a type of exercise which performed through …
When studying yoga you realise that life is actually like a vinyasa. Full of transition and change, from beginning to the end of life. A constant process, a flow, of things coming and going.
To be willing to take part of life, breath by breath, moment by moment, is to be brave. We all know it has it’s ups and downs. Some parts (and some poses) you want to stay in for long, and other’s you want to get out of. Fast.
And how you end things, a pose, a situation, a job or a class, lingers on into the next thing. Each thought, action or movement. Like a vinyasa. Know also when to finish something and move on. Do not stay too ong, because holding on to something old, means you are not leaving room for something new to enter.
Watch how you move (or transition) in and out of things and be mindful. Because how you do anything is how you do everything.
What does that mean? Being you? Have you ever been thinking about how you would describe being you? The authentic and true you, where you do not transform into something else or adjust to what others think you should be.
What do you believe in, what are your inner dreams? Do you have some behaviours, words, sayings or other traits that is characteristic for being you? Things that you do when being a leader or a colleague, a family member, a mother or father, a sister or brother, a friend. And things that you think is vital for being you, in these different roles.
It can be challenging to try to find what is unique in you, what trait and personality and specifics that only you possess. That does not exist within anyone else in the world. It is your unique expression, your own, personal DNA.
You can always listen in and reflect on your own behaviour. For instance, documenting in a journal on a day-to-day basis, to see the patterns. It is also helpful to ask someone who knows you well, what they see. Then keep in mind that this is a very sensitive question. So be mindful when asking and receiving this kind of insights.
In yoga, this is one of the five Yamas, called Satya, or truthfulness. Being true to yourself and to others. Truthfulness is also very linked to the first Yama, Ahimsa, or non-violence. To remind you that to be true and speak your truth should not involve harming others in any way.
Finding out about the ‘true you’ will give you a lot of understanding about yourself and this will help to guide your way forward. It will give your mind more peace and you will grow as a person.
Life really is one big journey. You never know exactly what to expect, but you can impact the way your life will turn out. I was listening to someone talking about visualizations the other day. How you, by visualizing something you want to happen in life, some kind of goal, for this person it was an award he wanted to win, but it can also be a competition you want to win, be the best at this or that (maybe even setting a world record, why not), being a millionaire, or turning your passion into your profession. Whatever the goal, they visualized this, every evening before going to sleep. Exactly how it felt to be in that place when achieving that goal. Standing at a podium, holding the price, or winning that race. Where they were, who was there beside them, what did they say. He had visualized this so often, so that when it actually happened, it almost did not feel as a surprise! He was so convinced that this would happen at some point, since he had been visualizing it for so long.
You can actually impact a lot in your life and achieve practically whatever you want, as long as you put your mind into it and, of course, work hard to get there. Start by setting your goals. What do you want? And then you work consistently, in everything you do, to get there. Do not let your life journey be like rolling the dice, and letting fait decide, if you know what you want. Take control and go get it! It IS possible.
I believe that life is all about finding balance. Balance between your work and private life, the known “work-life” balance. Balance in your diet, keeping a healthy diet with not too much and not too little out of anything. Balance in raising your children. You need to be there, to show that you love and care for them, and still you need to step aside or away sometimes to make them grow and stand on their own.
It is the same in yoga, using your balance in a lot of your poses, being balanced in your breathing, in your transition in and out of poses.
When you are in balance it shows. Both in yoga, getting into the poses of balance is so much easier. You can keep focus, with ease. And in life in general then you have a balanced temper, your feelings are more balanced. So strive to find this balance of yours, in all that you do and in your everyday life. It will feel so much better when you do.
How do you do to be balanced? In life in general and in different situations. Feel free to share by writing a comment below.
How do you stay positive when things do not go your way, as you hoped they would? When you face challenges? When you go through tough times in life?
The most important thing to do is to continue to take care of yourself. The basics – eat, sleep and exercise. These basic things are often the things that you start to miss out on when things get tough. And even if I know, and you know this, it is SO common that you still do not take care of the most important person in your life when things get tough and we are faced with some of the challenges that comes with life. That most important person is You.
You start to eat too little or too much, you eat more unhealthy stuff, the number of fast food dinners often increases, for instance. You might not eat regularly, you eat too late, or you skip out on one or more of the important meals of the day (breakfast, lunch and dinner).
You do not sleep well, maybe you go to sleep too late, you have troubles to fall asleep, or you sleep too much, because you just cannot get out of bed in the morning.
And often, the very first thing you do when times are tough is also that you start to skip out on your exercise. You feel that you do not have the time, you do not have the energy or you just do not feel like exercising because you are in a bad mood.
So, how do you stay positive? By taking care of yourself! Stick to your routines, your vital basic needs. Eat well! Even if you are not feeling hungry, you need to eat, and at regular times during the day. And even if the mind is telling you that you want fast food, resist that feeling and go for something nutritious that will give you a lot more energy. You need even more energy when you have a lot on your mind that takes energy. Sleep well! Get in bed in time, shut off your phone an hour before you go to sleep. And if you want, instead listen to some calming music, do some mindfulness meditation or read a book in bed, that will help you fall asleep. And keep up with your activities! Even if you do not have the energy or do not feel like it. That is when you need it the most! It does not have to be more than a 30 minute walk, the important thing is to do something. Every day.
If you have any other interests or hobbies, stick to them! Even if you cannot put as much time on them as before, just doing something that you like or even love, will help a lot to keep a positive mindset even in challenging times.
Hope this post will give you some ideas on how to stay positive, even in tough times.
In my ongoing yoga teacher training I am now reading about yoga philosophy and I wanted to share something from a book called The Yamas and niyamas by Deborah Adele.
The first of the five yamas in the yogic ethics (or guidelines) is Ahimsa – non-violence. Exercising yoga with this in mind means that you should not do any harm on yourself when practising. Meaning be careful in your poses. Meaning do not do twists or backbends deeper than your body allows you to. You will feel when you have reached the limit, you just need to listen to your body. As always:) Exercising ahimsa in general also means finding balance, being brave and courageous, and loving yourself.
In the same way, if living according to the guideline of Ahimsa you should not push your ideas or thoughts on to someone else. It is easy to assume that you know what is good for them, or what they want. You don’t know that. 🙂 This is the same as being violent to others, trying to fix, or help, or worry about someone else on the wrong assumptions. So the best way is to not try to fix others or worry about others. Instead, if you want to do something for others, you support them if and when they ask you.
How can you live to follow the guidelines of Ahimsa? Maybe you do already? Or by reading this, you got some ideas on what to be careful with or to change in future. It may sound easy at first, but when you give it some more thought and reflection, you can see there is an opportunity for a nice and developing challenge. If you wish and if you are up for it. The choice is yours.
You know that feeling when something challenging or uncomfortable happens and you ask yourself – WHY? Why this, why now, why me!? Then you can be quite sure that there is something else in the plan for you, something better, and you just need a little push to get there.
I do not know if you believe in this, but so many times it has proven to be just like this. At least that is my personal experience. When you do not get that something that you wanted, if it is a promotion, a new job you think you really wanted or needed, or if you are planning for a family, marriage, kids or whatever, and it does not work out as you wish. What happens is that then you get pushed into finding new ways instead, maybe make some adjustments in your personal plans and then you are on track again.
Or when you do get the opportunity to try something new and unknown, and it feels SO scary! Your head might be screaming NO, but your heart and inner voice says YES, this is what you need and really want to do. And when you dare take the leap and jump, you go for it, you take the opportunity, because you feel it is the right thing to do. And you end up getting rewarded tenfolds, by personal growth, increased self confidence and a lot of other positives. That feeling!
So next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel uncomfortable, remember that there is something else, something better, out there waiting for you and that you will grow as a person by getting this experience. So try to hang in there even if it is tough at the moment. It will be very exciting to see what future will bring for you.
How do you show the way, and lead others? Train others, support others and learn others what you know? It could be your kids, your team or your friends. Or your yoga students. How do you explain something to others to educate them in what you know and want to share? If you have tried this, you know it is not always easy 🙂 You can say one thing, and the “trainee” will do something else. If you have kids, I guess you have experienced telling him or her to do something, trying to show the way as a parent, just to find out that they are doing the total opposite?! (This is of course part of the process of being a parent and for the kid to try out some things for themselves, getting independent and all that, but just to give an example). The point is that teaching others and showing the way is not only about what you communicate, but how you communicate your knowledge, what you say and how you say it. And adapt the way you guide others to the person you are talking to. If you do not adapt the message to the receiver, you will not succeed. There is an expression in Swedish saying “speak to farmers on a farmers language” meaning you need to adapt your way of communication to the person you have in front of you. Or group of people, a team, or a class.
If you have a manager role you also know the challenges of showing the way. Not only deciding and knowing what way to go (set the strategy and targets for your team, department or your company, depending on your role), and go that way yourself, but also you need to communicate so that you will get your co-workers to understand, and to follow. How do you do this in the best way? How can you be the great leader you want to be, and show the way to obtain great results, and also, to have some fun along the way? (Do not forget to have some fun, then the likelihood of you succeeding will increase a LOT).
I think an interesting aspect of showing the way is to use the thinking of yoga teaching in your managerial role. How? If you should guide a person through a session you need to tell them what to do, by explaining and guiding, step by step. You start with setting an intention of the class (the business target), and before going into a new posture, you explain why you are doing a posture (to warm-up, to stretch, to be more flexible etc, compared to explaining why the business target is important to your business), and last, you explain in detail HOW to do the posture. (Stand with both feet hip-width apart, press navel to spine, etc compared to how you will reach your business targets. Then we need to do this, this and that.) You need to make the group understand not only what you mean, but why it is important, and to make them want to follow your lead, right? And make them feel comfortable and trusting you to guide them as their leader. It is the same with your role as a manager. You need to explain to everyone what direction you should take, and explain it in a way so that the team understands and can follow easily. Your success depends on your capability to show the way, to build trust, and to adapt. By being aware, and taking these small but very important steps along the way, I am sure you will be a great leader, in your personal as well as in your business life. Try it!
Do you love yourself and treat yourself with the same consideration and respect that you want to get from others? If you do not, the risk is that no one else will see why they should either.
Try to be your own best friend.
Think about how you treat your best friends. Probably you are there to support them, ask them how they are feeling, supporting them when they need it, and you are most likely a very loving and caring friend, right? So start seeing yourself as a very good friend! Check in regularly to see how you are feeling, and listen in to what you need. Ideally every single day.
A very good way to do this is during your daily morning yoga. Start with a few minutes silence (meditation if you wish) and just listen to both your body and mind. How are you feeling today? Your mood? Any special feelings in your body? Anything else that needs special attention? Once you know, you can take care of it. Like you would if it were your best friend in need.
Finally, do not forget that you are already perfect, exactly the way you are! And you deserve all the love you can get, from yourself and from others 💕